Stop The Ride!
The emotions you encounter when you are with a toxic or narcissistic individual can change from one minute to the next. You could be in a great mood until they come home, or if you are visited by a toxic family member who only complains as soon as they set foot into your home. Your great day is now ruined.
It is as if they are having a bad day; you should too. They thrive on chaos, stressing you out! It is exhausting!
This soon causes you anxiety, you don’t know who you will get when the door opens.
They hate seeing you show emotion. When you cry, they cannot be bothered.
The toll it takes on you is something you can’t explain.
If you ever go on vacation with them, it can be stressful. Diving dangerously, knowing that it makes you anxious. They don’t care. They become dismissive, yell at you, or begin gaslighting you, especially around friends.
They want you to feel how they feel deep down.
I was devastated after the discard, betrayed, and angry. Did I want revenge? At first, yes, but what good would that do? As he was packing his things, I never tried to stop or beg him to stay. I am pretty sure that after a while of the mind games, the cheating, the belittling. I was done with all of it.
I began to focus on myself, something you never have the chance to do when you are with a Narcissist. You were too busy jumping through hoops to make peace, to try making them happy, that was a losing battle.
The Discard was and still is a blessing, a gift.
I found peace, especially after going no contact, blocking them on social media, and deleting the photos of us. I used the gray rock method whenever I had to be face-to-face with them.
I watched a video today that I wanted to share. I think you will enjoy it. It’s by Mel Robbins
Going Beyond No Contact
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