Finding Yourself Again
Healing from a breakup is the worst, but healing from a Narcissistic Discard is an entirely different situation.
When you are in a relationship with a kind, caring, loving partner and you break up, yes, you need time to heal. It is painful and sad, but you understand what went wrong as you start to heal and grow from the experience. You learn from it.
A narcissistic or toxic relationship is excruciating once it is over. You gave them so much while receiving little or nothing in return. You are left depleted of energy, emotion, and self.
There is no equal give and take.
Looking back, you find these to be true; they changed who you were as a person, isolated you from your friends, family, and your support system. They might move you away from them. This is so the Narcissist has complete control over you.
Healing takes time; there is no rushing through it. You need to grieve since this feels like a death. Whether it be a relationship or marriage. Each step can often feel like a step back; this is part of the process. Do not give up.
Being with them was a lesson; you were mistreated, devalued, ignored, taken for granted, and ridiculed. You did not know what Narcissistic Abuse was, what the red flags were.
You will slowly begin to understand that what you experienced was toxic, and you will never want to make that same mistake again.
A Narcissist does not feel any remorse for what they did to you, and will never get closure. You will give yourself closure when you understand why this happened.
This hard lesson has made you stronger, and you will begin to notice what red flags to watch for.
Part of the healing process is journaling. A great tool to gain some understanding of what you experienced.
Counselling is also very beneficial. Look for one who specializes in trauma and psychological abuse. Here is a link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
One day, you will find that you no longer look back and wonder what they are doing, who they are with.
It is no longer your problem.
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