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When You Are Through With The Narcissistic Games

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The Truth Appears

Over time, as you learn about Narcissism, the emotional abuse you suffered, A clearer understanding emerges.

After a while, something just clicks! It was all a game to them, and you’ve had enough.

You understand that you were not the problem or the fixer of their past trauma, and not their Parent. Of course, the even bigger realization is that you were not equal partners.

To the Narcissist, you were only a supply source. You gave everything, love, attention, and you were there for them. What did you get in return?

This realization stirs up many emotions, and you may have found that trying to please the Narcissist has left you depleted both mentally and physically. That is the goal of the Narcissist.

The Bread Crumbing and the Narcissistic Fog were used to keep you confused. In the early stages of the relationship, things seemed off, but you didn’t recognize it as a form of abuse.

Now that they are out of your life, and the fog has lifted, you can do what makes you happy.

What the Narcissist never counted on was you getting stronger. Educating Yourself about Narcissistic Abuse

They may try to come around to see if they can manipulate you. If you are feeling bitter or angry towards them. Remember, this is not someone who genuinely loves or cares for you. They showed you all along how they really felt about you.

You look at them differently now, the games they played with you are over as far as you’re concerned.

It seems as though you are indifferent towards them; you show no emotion, provide no explanations, and share nothing about yourself or your personal life. To you, they feel like a stranger because the person you believed them to be was a lie. The mask they wore concealed their true feelings.

Learn to love yourself. Know how you want and expect to be treated, because you never want to experience Narcissistic Abuse ever again.

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Narcissistic Manipulator

The Puppet Master

Let’s face it, a Narcissist or a toxic person can be great at distorting the truth; they take pleasure in manipulating anyone, even their own family, but of course, if you are out of the “situationship” with the narcissist, have emerged from the Narcissistic Fog or maybe even dodged The Love Bombing Stage. You know what I am talking about.

If you don’t, you soon will!

A Narcissist loves the chase, the control they can have over you, every aspect of your life. It even affects your decision-making as well as your memory. Personal space or privacy? That does not exist to the Narcissist, but they will demand it from you, going so far as to lock you out of your own room.

They control who you talk to, isolate you from friends and family. It feels like you are being held prisoner, oftentimes in your own home.

They demand your undivided attention, adoration, and praise. If you are using your phone, taking a call. They want to know who you are talking to. Try to do that to a Narcissist and you will be met with a temper tantrum or silent treatment, another manipulation tactic.

Another common tactic used for manipulation is Gaslighting, which leaves you to question your own reality.

Once you start realizing your worth and the abuse you have encountered, you will understand that what you have gone through was domestic abuse. Begin the process of educating yourself about Narcissistic Abuse Awareness, The Red Flags to look out for, and regain your independence, your sense of self.

This has made you a stronger person, someone who will not be manipulated, used, ridiculed, or taken advantage of. Ever again.

You are an incredible person, deserving of so much better. You matter.

Remember that.

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Have I Married A Narcissist?

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From Fairy Tale to Nightmare

The “situationship” with this person feels like nothing you have ever experienced. You would be absolutely right.

In the early stages, everything seems perfect, too good to be true.

Once the celebration is over and you have returned from your honeymoon, things slowly start to change. They are subtle, and of course, you might dismiss them. The insults start small, similar to when you were dating. Now, there are high expectations, and the bar is slowly rising. You do whatever you can to make them happy. They seem appreciative. But the bar is just continuously moved higher.

Over time you find that the person you lovingly greeted at the door is now always on edge and you feel like it is something you did, becoming a bit anxious. Maybe they had a bad day at work?

They complain about work during dinner and you listen. Thinking to yourself, they never wanted to hear about my day, it was always, leave work problems, at work.

Soon it is about the meals you cook for them. As well as how you dress and clean the house, as they go through the once-cleaned house like the Tasmanian devil tossing things everywhere. Still, you are now expected to wait on them. Now you feel sad, it is like their bad mood has affected you.

“Relationships” or being married to a Narcissist are complicated and misunderstood. You feel like the only one steering the boat with one paddle, while the other person sits and criticizes.

It takes work, compromise, understanding and patience to keep any relationship going good and bad. People who love and respect each other will do what needs to be done to make it work. Not just keep the peace, you should be able to voice your concerns without keeping things bottled up.

A Narcissist will not do that, even if there are children involved. They will not put in the work, or discuss problems or concerns that you might have. They would rather walk away.

You no longer feel like their spouse, more like a parent or maid. Because that is how you are treated, no one deserves that.

Believe me, if you have children, they definitely notice this mistreatment but will not say anything, mostly out of fear.

A Narcissist can love you one minute and resent you the next. This also goes for their own children. The love a child gives a Narcissistic parent is never reciprocal, merely a transaction.

The marriage is, in their eyes, a big production where they basically put on a performance that fools everyone, yes, even you.

This is another way they gain control. Your finances, claiming that you don’t know how to handle them, so they want to take over the responsibility. This causes bills, often times in your name. To be delinquent. Do not let them be in control of your finances! You will never see it, and when they tell you, “My money is our money,” The truth is your money is their money, their money is also theirs. It comes down to you asking for money, especially if it is a joint account. They do not make it easier for you

I hope this post helped shed some light on what you may be experiencing now. If you know someone who is, please feel free to share. It could be helpful.

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Behind Every Picture, there is a story

Look Closely

There will be a time when you look through old photos of you and your ex. maybe thinking about how happy you were, but look again, closely. Were you genuinely happy? This may not be understood now, especially if this breakup is recent. But let me tell you, behind the eyes it can reveal so much.

The Narcissist’s expression in photos is very telling as well. It almost looks like they are putting on a show, fooling everyone.

As you begin to heal from the emotional abuse, mind games, and trauma bonding, you’ll gradually gain a clearer understanding of your experiences over time. Looking at photos will no longer trigger painful memories, and you’ll understand that the relationship or marriage was never genuine; it was only perceived that way by you.

Yes, this is a painful lesson, but one that you will grow from, understand, and know your worth. It will be an awakening, a realization that you deserve much better.

You were in a fog for so long and now you moved through it, stronger, aware of the red flags to watch for.

The person in the photo is not the person you are right now. You have changed and grown and gained knowledge about Narcissism.

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