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The Aging Narcissist

Lies, Lies and More Lies

This comes so easily for a Narcissist, especially when there is zero accountability. They believe everything they say, and looking into their eyes can make them uncomfortable.

Yet they seem to have a hard time believing anyone else. If you call them out for it, be prepared for the rage!

They often blame shift or change the conversation to something else in hopes that you will forget and we all know that part of Narcissistic Abuse is brain fog. It is a part of their sick game to make you feel like you are going crazy. So they can blame you for the problems in the situation ship.

People often wonder, does the Narcissist change? They do change, yes, just not in the way you hope. They get worse and will not seek help, blaming you as the problem. Never accepting accountability.

There are the self aware Narcissists who I have personally watched on YouTube and they offer greater insight as to how a Narcissist is and when they realized they needed help.

They present you with a better understanding by sharing their own experience.

Video by: Mental Healness

I hope that this video and post are helpful.

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Pets and The Narcissist

Unconditional Love? Not From A Narcissist

Pets offer their owners love, protection, and loyalty and only want that in return.

They are very instinctive. They can tell when something is not right. Some have been known to sense that their owners are sick, and they are protective when they sense danger.

The Narcissist appears caring and concerned and helps you take care of the pet until the novelty wears off and the responsibility falls on you.

This is usually when you see the mask of the Narcissist begin to slip, you are focusing the attention on your pet, not the Narcissist who acts like a child having a tantrum. They get angry because they are not the main focus of your attention.

They start to isolate and ignore you. This causes confusion and worry. You wonder if you once again have done something wrong to cause their strange behavior. This tactic leaves you feeling like you are walking on eggshells.

You did nothing wrong.

This is Narcissistic Abuse

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The Doormat

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Feeling Used

I heard this comment before and was taken aback. It is one that I had never heard before until much later.

It makes so much sense now.

I was the narcissist’s doormat. Nothing I did was appreciated, it was expected. Anxiety was through the roof and a sense of dread washed over me as I saw his vehicle approach the driveway, never knowing if I would be met with Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde.

Looking back on the early stages of the situationship before marriage, I was being controlled and manipulated, but I did not know it at the time. You may be wondering, How did you not know? It was combined with charm, and there was lots of it—with a bit of guilt.

I realize now besides being manipulated I was used, and taken advantage of. At some point, I mentally checked out. Unfortunately, I was still being walked all over.

I let it happen because, in some strange way, I thought it was love. I was very mistaken.

After he grew tired of breadcrumbing. He decided to walk away after we spent many years together. But when he left, I never went after him, to make him stay. I was hurt and devastated but then I came to realize that the marriage only meant something to me. It was one-sided. He was never really there for me like I had been for him. He took so much, yet gave so little in return.

Now there is peace. I am no longer a doormat, a sounding board. That is someone else’s problem now.

I dodged a bullet.

So, as you grieve, understand that it is completely normal to do that. You are mourning what you thought was real. You are no longer the doormat, their sounding board.

Give yourself time. You will learn and grow from this experience and are so much more deserving of love and respect.

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What Is Narcissism?

A Narcissist is someone who can be very charming and charismatic but also lacks empathy toward people’s feelings and has zero respect for boundaries.

Narcissism is a word often misused. We can mistake it if we are around people who may have the characteristics. We may have those as well but that does not make us a Narcissist. The difference is that while we have empathy. A Narcissist does not.

A Narcissist is only interested in themselves, and what others can do for them. They have a sense of entitlement, a total disregard for other people’s feelings, and no empathy.

A Secret Behind The Smile?

They feed on people’s insecurities and are masters at manipulation, even to the point where you think that you are the problem, but you are not.

They do not feel good about themselves, even if their outward appearance shows otherwise. They try to learn everything about you and your weaknesses to use against you later.

A Narcissist is not capable of love, at least not the love you or I know, or deserve, their love comes at a cost. Always.

Dishonesty and keeping secrets are part of their game, as are different versions of themselves, whether around co-workers, friends, or family.

Below is a video that will hopefully help you gain more insight. I find his content very beneficial.

Video: Dr. Les Carter – A Narcissist’s 3 Selves

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