Feeling Used: The Many Facets of a Narcissistic Abuse Relationship
Have you ever taken a step back once the relationship ends and noticed how you were treated unfairly?
The phrase “Treated like a Doormat” is something rarely heard, but so is Narcissistic Abuse
It makes so much sense now.
The feeling of what used to be excitement when you saw their vehicle enter the driveway, has been replaced with overwhelming anxiety and dread.
The Reality of “Situationships” and Control
Looking back on the early stages of the situationship before marriage, I was being controlled and manipulated, but I did not know it at the time. You may be wondering, How did you not know? It was combined with charm, and there was lots of it—with a bit of guilt.
I realize now besides being manipulated I was used, and taken advantage of. At some point, I mentally checked out. Unfortunately, I was still being walked all over.
I let it happen because, in some strange way, I thought it was love. I was very mistaken.
The Turning Point: Walking Away From One-Sided Love
After he grew tired of breadcrumbing. He decided to walk away after we spent many years together. But when he left, I never went after him, to make him stay. I was hurt and devastated but then I came to realize that the marriage only meant something to me. It was one-sided. He was never really there for me like I had been for him. He took so much, yet gave so little in return.
Now there is peace. I am no longer a doormat, a sounding board. That is someone else’s problem now.
I dodged a bullet.
Reclaiming Your Life and Healing
So, as you grieve, understand that it is completely normal to do that. You are mourning what you thought was real. You are no longer the doormat, their sounding board.
Give yourself time. You will learn and grow from this experience and are so much more deserving of love and respect.
I hope this helped in some way.
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