A New Beginning
We often feel defeated, lost or confused and definitely angry once the relationship is over.
Now comes the healing process.
Most likely, I will be posting about this often, because it is very important to take care of yourself.
Here are some ideas to help you along the way.
Journaling – Get your thoughts and feelings on paper. You will have up days and down days, and that is completely normal. Writing daily about your thoughts, feelings, and emotions is very therapeutic; it makes you feel better, giving you a greater understanding of what you experienced.
Holding in emotions will only make you feel worse.
Counseling – Talking to a professional, especially one who specializes in Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma, is essential. You want someone who will listen to you and guide you through the steps to healing. You may notice that after the first two sessions, you feel worse; this is a common occurrence, but do not get discouraged. It will get better.
Medication– Speak to your primary care physician, be honest, and tell them how you feel. Ask if a low-dose antidepressant is advised or another alternative to help if you are experiencing anxiety.
Meditation– Look for a quiet, distraction-free, relaxing space.
For those seeking a meditation and relaxation app, Calm is an excellent choice. They offer a trial version.
Self-Care – Focusing on yourself is vital, both mentally and physically. It is not selfish.
Write A Letter to yourself as well as your Ex – A letter to yourself can be a way to forgive yourself for everything you allowed because you didn’t set boundaries. You may have dismissed their behavior, not realizing the impact of toxic relationships, emotional abuse, or narcissism. Remember, you deserve so much better.
Writing a letter to your ex can be a way to express your feelings, including the disrespect and pain you’ve endured from their cowardly treatment. Let the words flow. Once you have finished writing the letters, consider burning them.
Delete photos of the two of you – Looking at them will only cause more pain and give you false hope of them possibly trying to reach out again. If you review those pictures, you’ll likely see the pain behind those eyes and come to realize that you were never happy when you were with them.
Delete and block their number and contact – This will not be easy, but it is necessary as you move forward. Be sure to block them on social media as well.
Reach out to Family and Friends – When you were with the Narcissist, they isolated you from those close to you. It is time to reconnect!
Yoga – This aligns with self-care and can be practiced at home if a yoga studio is not accessible. You can find great sessions on YouTube
Here is one I personally recommend: https://yogawithadriene.com/
Self-Reflect – You are not to blame for what happened, but understanding that they chose you for a reason, they knew you did not have proper boundaries in place, and the knowledge. You may have been a people pleaser, ignored the red flags, or been codependent.
This changes when you are healing, you understand what to watch for, know your worth, and set clear, strict boundaries.
Remember, A toxic individual is broken; it is not your responsibility to fix them.
Walk away, do not look back.
Let Them Go!!
I hope that this post was helpful to you.
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